I remember feeling very unearthed after therapy and so naturally I started to think about what it must be like to encounter someone like me, as I am today. As my therapist. As a lover. As a friend. And, I’m a good friend. Consequently pretty excellent at platonic relationships. But I’ve been pretty closed off to anything more than that for as long as I can remember. Through the writing process, this song has morphed into a confession around how much growing I’ve done paired with the presence of a special friendship I have in my life that has grown me a lot. It’s kind of undefinable and enigmatic and somehow it calms me more than it confuses. It’s surprising yet feels so familiar. It’s has some of the shadows of yearning but it’s more so ultimately about learning—about myself, about the capacity one can have to care for something. It goes goes beyond “labels.” Really Lovers is a love song because any relationship without love feels quite pointless. And it’s cool to explore corners of love that do not feel typical or standard. Really Lovers is my attempt in “queering” out definitions/expectations/glorification around love and the arresting forms it can take when you do the work, talk it out, and laugh together. I don’t know. But I don’t mind not knowing. Written in LA, recorded in NY from an entirely tender and good place.